First off lets get rid of one common misconception! Many women DO enjoy anal sex and actively participate in bum play.
In fact most people (partners included) feel that women when they do partake in some anal action - is for the sake of their partners only. However that is rather far from the truth! A butt plug can and is equally enjoyed by women as well.
Why a woman’s vaginal wall loves a butt plug?
For women the sexual pleasure and sensations increase when there is pressure placed on the back of the vaginal wall. So using a butt plug while she is experiencing vaginal sex is a great combination. So you could use a vibrator, dildo or your partner's penis and at the same time use a butt plug to push against your vaginal wall from the back. If you are receiving oral sex a butt plug helps to intensify the feelings for a woman. When you reach the point of climax the contractions that you experience around the butt plug increase dramatically. One other thing is that the anus area can also be very stimulating for sexual pleasure - with a butt plug the nerve endings here get excited.
If you would like to increase your male partner’s pleasure, the butt plug helps to reduce the amount of space in your pelvis. This makes the vagina tighter for your partner to enter, increasing your partners penile sensations.
Just starting out with butt plugs?
If you are thinking about anal sex for the first time as an experiment then it may be advisable to do it alone to start with. This is because you can know for sure that you enjoy it. Else with your partner you may feel pressured to continue with the process beyond your zone of comfort, or your refusal may spoil the moment. Before you begin, make sure apart from your butt plug you have condoms (a lubed one preferably) to keep the butt plug hygienic, and a good amount of lube (preferably water based) ready for use.
Lubing is very important in making your butt plug pleasurable
Unlike your vagina, your anus does not have a self lubricating mechanism. Hence if you want to enjoy some bum play with a butt plug, a lubricant is essential. Also remember you will have to be generous with the lubricant, far more than your vagina would need.
Finally make sure your butt plug is of very good quality - look out for seams that can scratch your sensitive tissues. Also anal beads using strings made of cotton are a strict no no as well. The strings will end up having bacterial growth resulting in infections in your private parts. The best bet keeping hygiene in mind is to use silicon, which is not only easy to clean but also will keep you free from infection.
