Friends with benefits can be an ideal scenario, as long as you go into it with the right frame of mind. Having a friend with benefit (FWB) can provide you with fun, passion and excitement whilst having the freedom to live your live as you choose. However they can also go terribly wrong and often end with at least one partner becoming unhappy, largely due to emotional attachment and the lines between casual sex and relationships becoming blurred.
In any relationship you can never control what’s going to happen, but you can always take precautions to prevent you getting hurt. Here’s a list of 6 simple rules for friends with benefits.
- Firstly don’t get into the FWB scenario with someone you already have an emotional attachment too. It will only end badly! If they felt the same way about you, you would be developing an emotional relationship not a physical relationship! (harsh but true)
- Always see it for what it is. Never let it stray too far from your mind that it’s a relationship based on sex and physical attraction- and that’s all it will ever be. Don’t give yourself the chance to ponder upon the idea of becoming more than FWB and if you do, maybe it’s time to have a talk.
- Only use FWB as a short term scenario. Don’t have the same FWB for a long period of time, otherwise feelings will develop, and so might other relationships = messy.
- Don’t stay in contact too often. Don’t start sending each other texts every day and doing ‘couply gestures’. This could confuse your relationship…. And definitely don’t start going on dates together and hanging out all the time.
- Enjoy your freedom. Make the most of the fact that you’re single. Go out and party see other people. Don’t waste your time remaining exclusive for them
6. Be open and maintain mutual respect for each other. Make sure you’re getting what you want out of the relationship, don’t let one person have all the control. Share and explore your desires and fantasies and have fun.
