So it’s been a while, but I’m back and I did it! I took the first step into indulging into the dark world of bondage. I’m currently floating around stage 7 on my guide of ten tips for introducing 50 shades and so far I’ve loved it although I haven’t quite plucked up the courage to use restraints (other than pink fluffy handcuffs) but for now I’m happy experimenting with role play.
So I’ll go back to where I left off,
Well writing the blog I had done plenty of BDSM research so I knew exactly what I was letting myself in for, all I had to do next was to find a relatively subtle way of discussing this with the boyfriend. After thinking long and hard I got nowhere, so I decided I’d have to plunge straight it. I decided to go about it with a light hearted sense of humour.. so I purchased a whip, a blindfold, some handcuffs and a gimp mask and lay it all on the kitchen table for him to see when he returned home from work. As soon as I saw his face I realised he didn’t find it that amusing and he was in fact scared, his expression just reflected pure fear and confusion. After the initial awkwardness, the embarrassing conversation turned promising as he unleashed his desires to blindfold and restrain me. These revelations made my tummy flitter with excitement at the unknown chapter that was about to unveil. After establishing safe words the experimenting began.
We began by taking it in turns to tie each other up with the pink fluffy handcuffs (keeping things light hearted and fun). I let him take the lead and surrendered my arms giving him complete control. At first I felt anxious I didn’t like being restricted but the more we got into things the more playful it got the more I enjoyed it. Although when it came to my turn to tie handcuff him, I instantly knew which role got my blood pumping, I loved having the power to tease and tantalize him. Despite Tom (my boyfriend) not being keen on being handcuffed at first he really did enjoyed it, which was a pleasant surprise for both of us.
I decided next time I was going to surprise him to really get the excitement flowing, and so I attacked stages 6, 7 and 8 in one go. I went and bought a blindfold and a kinky police woman outfit to get into the feel of role play! I figured as he’d enjoyed being handcuffed the police woman outfit would be perfect. So I put on the sexy outfit, and I have to say it really gave me that extra confidence to take control … it made me feel powerful and I looked pretty hot if I do say so myself!. I waited till I heard the doorbell ring (thankfully it was tom) and I order him upstairs. I undressed him, blindfolded him, handcuffed him to the bed and truly took control. It felt fantastic and although he didn’t have much choice at the time luckily he loved every minute of it. He found the spontaneity of it and the outfit a real turn on!. If you’re having difficulty getting into either domineering or submissive roles I’d definitely recommend dressing up!
Anyway now we’ve just got to tackle retraining and spanking. I’m really nervous about spanking.. but intrigued too! Anyway I hope you’re all enjoying exploring as much as I am! We’d love to hear about how you’re getting on!
