Throughout our adult lives our sex drives ebb and flow, sometimes we seem to have an insatiable appetite and other times we can really take it or leave it. On occasion the level of our sex drive is affected by outside life influences such as being stressed, in an unhappy relationship, at the start of a relationship, or when we are in a phase of being single.
The levels of sexual appetite also change as we age, hormone levels fluctuate, confidence levels change, and what we desire changes. A woman is said to hit her sexual peak in her 40s, in fact it has been said that this is the best decade of a woman’s life when it comes to her sex life. Women entering their 40s today have also grown up in an age where independence, accomplishment, and confidence were starting to be celebrated, and even seen as attractive, especially by younger men! We’ve all seen Samantha in Sex and the City!
So how does turning 40 change your sex life?
Confidence – As you get older your confidence grows, you know who you are, what you want inside and outside of the bedroom. Whether you have been in a relationship for years, are currently between partners, or in a new relationship, your new found confidence will be noticed.
The body hang ups you were crippled by in your 20s and only slightly less aware of in your 30s seem to fade into insignificance. This acceptance and the new found ability to love yourself for who you are increases your confidence in the bedroom, this means less sucking in your stomach and trying to stay in the more flattering positions, and more letting go and enjoying the moment.
When you are a woman in your 40s you are also more likely to initiate sex – girls gotta have it!
There is a lot less time spent worrying about wobbly bits and more time enjoying the passion.
Experimentation – With the increased confidence comes the desire to experiment more in the bedroom, partly because you are not spending the whole time worrying about your body and what it looks like. As a result a high percentage of women in their 40s buy sex toys such as vibrators, cock rings, and lube to spice up things in the bedroom.
Satisfaction – When you are younger, mainly in your 20s, you tend to think more about your partner than yourself. Although this isn’t a bad thing, it often comes at the expense of your own enjoyment. When you get to your 40s you are able to balance asking for what you want from the person sharing your bed, whether you are in a relationship or not, your own pleasure, and making sure that they are having as good a time as you are.
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